It’s that time of year again, isn’t it? The New Year is almost upon us and everyone is busy thinking up goals for 2016. We do it every year. “Next year I want to loose weight” then by the middle of January you’re 3lbs heavier, sobbing into your pizza and feeling like a failure.
I’ve just had a little pep talk with my hubby to be. I swear that guy needs to be a life coach. We were talking about how people choose to stay comfortable and hate doing things that are hard… then complain about why their lives aren’t going the way they want. I’ve been very guilty of it lately. It’s been easier for me to wallow and feel sorry for myself, let work pile on top of me, feel overwhelmed then just go an hide under my duvet and hate the world. Getting up and making positive changes to your life is hard, and things can get scary and uncomfortable.
It happens to the best of us at times. We start out the year with the best of intentions. We make goals for the year ahead but what do we do to actually make those goals a reality? We slip back into our negative yet comfortable ways and feel like massive failures.
So, I’m here to give you (and myself) a kick up the backside. if you want to achieve anything in life you need to get out of your comfort zone. You aren’t not going to progress or make huge changes in your life by carrying on in the same patterns that you’re in now. Einstein once said that the definition of madness is repeating the same actions over and over but expecting different results. You’re not going to achieve your goals by carrying on the way you are.
So, to make next year the best year ever, here are a few things I’m going to try… and you can to.
- Write down your goals. – Go nuts. Write down EVERYTHING you want. Make a huge deal out of it. Make it look all pretty and put it somewhere where you’re going to see it EVERY.SINGLE.DAY! Get a planner, make a mood board… just something to remind you that you’re working for something. Remind yourself that this is what you want to achieve this year and don’t forget it. Have a little celebration when when you get to tick something off the list.
- Hustle – All to often (I’m guilty of this) I see people complain that they don’t have the life they want… but aren’t exactly making any changes to get it. The most successful people in the world are the ones who eat, sleep and breathe what they’re passionate about. They work 12 hour days, they market the shit out of themselves if they have something they want to sell. You can’t just sit there hoping for things to happen. You need to commit to making stuff happen.
- Ignore negativity – It’s hard when bad stuff happens and it can really hold you back. Things happen and there are times when I just want to throw in the towel and give up. You may get dropped by a client, or get a bad grade on a test or even someone may tell you your ideas are stupid. If we let set backs stop us from going for what we want then we’ll never get anywhere. See them as lessons to do better next time. If JK Rowling gave up after being rejected by publishers could you honestly imagine a world without Harry Potter???
- Be open to change – it’s a psychological trait for some people that have felt so much negativity in their lives that any form of positivity can be uncomfortable for them. It’s almost as if we get used to living a certain way because change is scary. When things go well for us we start to self sabotage ourselves unconsciously because deep down we feel we don’t deserve any better. My aunt used to tell me about “the wall” that people hit when they’re running or exercising. You get to a point where you feel like you can’t go on anymore, you’re anxious, tired and exhausted. In life this can be the same when you’re doing well. You might feel like you’ve working your arse off and for what? This is the point you have to decide if you really want to carry on or stop. If you stop you’re back to square one again but you can push through that wall and amazing things can happen. Don’t be afraid to move to the next level. If it was a doddle everyone would be successful millionaires wouldn’t they?
Celebrate your victories – All too often we focus on what we can’t do or what we’re not very good at and we convince ourselves not to do anything. “I’ll be better just sat here on my sofa watching TV anyway because who am I to think I can be successful.” How many times have you said that? I’ve probably told myself that daily for the past few years. But come on, you must have done something that was good. Sit down and make a list (yes another list… lists are great) of all the things that you’re proud of. You’ll soon realise that you’re actually pretty awesome and should give yourself a lot more credit than you have been. I’m guilty of going around thinking I’m not great but I got into uni at the age of 33… something I never for a second thought I’d be able to do in my 20’s. I’ve taken some pretty cool photos in my time, built a couple of decent websites, raised a child who’ll grow up to be a pretty amazing, strong willed and beautiful lady without breaking her, I bagged myself a hot fiancé with a sexy beard and everything. I even managed to keep a house plant alive for three years without killing it too. I’m actually pretty freakin’ awesome.
I’m determined to make next year amazing. I don’t want to go through the same negativity that I experienced this year. It was hard. So I think it’s a bit of a wake up call to make some positive changes to my life. Here’s to the best year ever. This time next year I can’t wait to hear about all the amazing things you’ve all achieved over the course of 2016. Let’s make a promise to one another to be the best we can be and to have the most happy, successful and abundant year. I’m off to work in my Leonie Dawson workbooks and write millions of lists then go out and do them.
If you find this post helpful (and hopefully not too preachy lol), I’d love for you to let me know in the comments.